Health issues, relationship challenges, economic hardship, bullying, rainforest destruction, the news, childhood trauma...
Getting tired of it yet? Wanting to escape?
I get that. And I also know that the only way out... (sorry!)... is through.
So may "problems" are caused at the level of the mind, but as Einstein said, "No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it." We can't out-think our own thoughts or what they've created. This is apropos on both the individual and collective levels.
Challenges present themselves, both internal and external to the self as opportunities to go within. Yes, I know you've heard all this before; for example, "The answers are within you" and "I'm not telling you anything you don't already know."
Well, I'm calling partial BS on that.
I'd say instead, we HAVE ACCESS to deeper truths. All of us. But most of us are being run by the conditioned mind instead. I've read that scientists have determined we are run by our conditioned mind (our patterns) 80 to 90 percent of the time! I think it may be even higher.
How do we gain better access to the higher truths? How do we do so with more consistency?
Through our own emotions.
That doesn't mean we act out every thought of, for example, anger. It means we invite a deeper awareness than the level of mind by opening up to witnessing and experiencing the feelings. It means we allow feelings that have been buried, sometimes for decades, to rise to the level of conscious awareness for processing and healing. For most who I've worked with, we like to think we can access the deeper, buried emotional pain on our own. But that's just a thought. And more often than not, an incorrect thought at that.
Let's be authentic here: we're afraid of facing our deepest layers of fear, anger and sadness. And we should be. They can be overwhelming. Too often we've been on the receiving end of others' rage and unprocessed emotions and have decided we don't want to perpetuate these energies upon others. We also fear getting stuck in our own muck.
Ironically, the exact opposite is true: Freedom, deeper connections, and the highest truths are on the other side of our unprocessed emotions.
There is an additional challenge to healing: the energies and emotions we've absorbed from others throughout our entire lifetime. Put that way, how could we not be afraid of the overwhelm? The processes for healing at the root level -- either what's our own or what's been absorbed -- are described in my books and shared in my workshops and sessions. But solely reading about them is only good, not great. We've got to do the work.
Is it always easy?
Hells to the no.
But as Neale Donald Walsch wrote, "It's the only game in town."
What makes it easier?
Safe space held by a friend or practitioner co-creates an environment where we can truly access and process. The days of trying to heal on one's own are over. If self-healing were the answer, we wouldn't still be searching for inner peace and healing!
You're probably already a great space-holder for others. Most of my readers and clients are. We just don't receive back what we so often give. We have to live bolder. We have to begin asking for what we need. If someone can give that, great. If they can't, move along and ask someone else. Yeah, it may get weary. You may feel like a burden. But how often have you 'been there' for others? It's your karmic right to receive. We just have to ask and allow the perfect person or practitioner to show up.
I see the value of safe space every day in my office and by phone/video conference. Sometimes, people cry within the first few minutes of a session. Sometimes before I even say a word. While emotional release isn't always necessary for healing, we do have to be open to it. By being with (or giving back) the sadness that can be perceived as walls of protection around the heart, we finally have access to the heart's wisdom. That is where true and long-lasting healing happens.
In wisdom, in health, in healing,