COVID-19 Affecting Your Sleep? What if Insomnia was a Path to Awakening?

April 6th, 2020
COVID-19 Affecting Your Sleep? What if Insomnia was a Path to Awakening?


  • Trouble falling or staying asleep?
  • Waking up exhausted?
  • Lethargic or Anxious?
  • Is it worse of late?

Sleep difficulties lead to challenges with: memory; concentration; productivity; and general health and vitality. And a large percentage of us are being affected now at a higher degree than I can recall.

This is at least in part (or mostly?) due to the sadness and fear around current COVID-19 virus. That, in addition to the now-increased economic hardships, family and housemates triggering old wounds, derisive and divisive mainstream and social media, EMFs, political strife, and so much more. As empathic humans (we're all empathic because we're all connected, we're just aware it to different degrees), we are tuned into it. Bigly.

Many Empaths & Sensitives (HSPs) absorb the energy, thoughts and emotions of other people or groups of people, and some are so sensitive they feel the pain of Mother Earth. I had one client tell me she could feel the earthquake in Turkey from here in the States—before it happened! Talk about being “tuned in!”

All the incoming energy puts many of our systems on high alert. We go into fight or flight mode, which over a short period is fine, but too much fight or flight creates energetic overload, blockages and eventually pain, illness and of course, sleep challenges.

As if feeling the individual and collective frustration, anger, and grief isn’t difficult enough, our own sense of responsibility for others makes us take it one step further and keep what’s incoming as if it were our own energy. Our minds then try to figure out what’s happening to combat the discomfort. But if we’re unaware that what we’re dealing with isn’t our own, how can we possibly heal? And how can we even determine that our discomfort isn’t our own if we’re bombarded with so much incoming energy?!?! The search for the cause can be like looking for a needle in a haystack—blindfolded! The eventual and sometimes endless frustration in trying to decrease mental confusion without knowing and addressing the deepest and most insidious underlying causes creates even more internal chaos.

Collective anxiousness seems to be becoming the norm. If many people around you—and if you’re super empathic that can include people who are thousands of miles away—are anxious, we pick up on those energies and suffer the consequences. The end result of our own unease and the agitation of others is mental, emotional and energetic chaos, often diagnosed as “anxiety.”

And we expect to sleep well in that state?!?!?

“It appears that every man's insomnia is as different from his neighbor’s as are their daytime hopes and aspirations."
-F. Scott Fitzgerald

Empaths unconsciously absorb so much energy during the day and typically do not fully process it, so we attempt to manage it when we’re most still—when going to bed. By that time we’re on such overload, it makes falling or staying asleep most challenging. And even if we do eventually fall asleep, we don’t get enough REM. Without enough REM sleep, we will awake feeling less refreshed than before going to bed! The cumulative effects of this can go way beyond modest discomfort. Lack of quality sleep negatively affects all aspects of our experience.

The inability to process daytime emotions is among the most popular and least addressed causes of sleep challenges for everyone, not just Empaths. We, as untrained Empaths tend to suffer with this to a higher degree because we’re not only subconsciously trying to process our own emotions, but also the emotions of so many others as well.

What to Do?

We all know this higher truth already, but we need reminders: We can only do what we came here to do. We can only be who we are capable of being. OVER-extending our energy to help others must by nature be tiring. The OVER-responsibility inherent within “I’ve got the whole world on my shoulders” can only bring you down.

This isn’t an excuse to do nothing, but rather an invitation to do and be what your soul is calling you to rather than listening to the mind’s ideas of what it THINKS you should do.

Granted, many of us do have high degrees of responsibility inherent in our family or professional lives. If you’re a parent or your job (i.e. a nurse or doctor and if yes, Thank You for Your Service!) requires it, the physical or even legal responsibilities of course should be attended to. But metaphysically speaking, each person cannot be responsible for the soul path of anyone else. Surely, we can “be there” for others, but we must let them live their own lives. This doesn’t mean we care less or love less, more an invitation to care and love better.  

Got it. Now, how can I help myself?

"Your life is a reflection of how you sleep, and how you sleep is a reflection of your life."
-Dr. Rafael Pelayo

Medical health providers and even alternative practitioners are a part of a multimillion-dollar businesses that are more than happy to recommend drugs, herbal supplements, and energy work to address the symptoms. And while an occasional medication, herbal supplement or Reiki session is better than staring at the ceiling for 8 hours, those external relaxants and sessions still don’t address the root level, leaving millions of people drug-dependent and potentially disempowered.

Some sleep challenges are physical in nature, for example, sleep apnea. For Empaths and HSPs without physical limitations, we should:

  • learn to better manage incoming energy; 
  • "Return to Sender" what’s already been absorbed; 
  • change our mindset; and 
  • adjust our relationships.

I have two books devoted to the first two recommendations above, managing incoming energy and healing what’s already been absorbed in ways specifically designed for Empaths & HSPs by an Empath/HSP, so in this blog let’s address mindset and relationships.   


"The amount of sleep required by the average person is five minutes more."
-Wilson Mizener

Even WebMD says, “Most adults need 7 to 9 hours a night for the best amount of sleep, although some people may need as few as 6 hours or as many as 10 hours of sleep each day.”

That’s not very informative, is it? We as humans want to know we’re in the range of “normalcy” but with the experts having such a wide gap between minimum and maximum, how are we to know what’s best?

Quality, Not Quantity

Over the years, I have slowly traded in my false belief that I needed a certain number of hours of sleep to be fully functional for the understanding that less sleep isn’t always a bad thing, especially if in that shorter period of time I can get better quality sleep. I do this by processing my own daytime emotions in addition to working with those that have been empathically absorbed.

If I am distracted by the past (mine or that of others), I’m inviting grief. If I’m distracted by the future (mine or that of others), I am inviting anxiousness. If I process well, I can focus on the present. Just the knowing that quality is the goal and can be reached by becoming more present, I can thrive on as little as 5 hours of sleep a night if needed. Knowing this alleviates any "I need to get X number of hours of sleep" or any self-criticism if sleep isn't happening. As a result, I can fall asleep easily and quickly, partly because there is less pressure on myself to sleep in a certain way or a certain number of hours. 


If you are sleeping next to someone who snores or tosses and turns a lot, obviously your own sleep will be affected. Let’s take that one step further and discuss the metaphysical equivalent of sleeping next to the snoremaster.

If you spend much of your day a “Walking sponge” odds are high you’ll do so at night as well. So if you are sleeping next to someone who is anxious, worried, angry, grieving or frustrated and you are an HSP or Empath, do I need to finish this sentence? Similarly, for those that are sensitive enough, the turmoil of the neighbors or even much larger communities—all the way up to the whole world—obviously can become a burden as well.

Being kicked by a restless sleep partner can be awful enough that you’d be happy to sleep elsewhere (hopefully still in the same domicile!), and empathically absorbing a loved one's energy isn't that different. Sometimes, it's best to sleep in another room. I know, I know, not very romantic, right? And perhaps that offer can seem insulting to your partner. But HSPs and Empaths need to honor our own needs to thrive. We’ve been so used to putting others first, it’s time to switch focus a bit. Until you can master the steps in my book (and while the ultimate spiritual goal might be to be able to stand in the metaphorical fire and not get burned), sometimes avoidance (chosen or forced!) isn’t such a bad thing. But if contact can’t be avoided, we can do our work to adjust our perception of the people and our relationships to them.

It ever ceases to amaze me how relationships change when I do. What we send out is picked up on and reacted to. We’re here to grow, and what happens both internally and externally is happening to further that growth.


  1. Change your mindset about sleep quality being a result of quantity only.
  2. Adjust your relationships as needed.

There are other factors as well that may be addressed in upcoming blogs, but for now, try the above—ideally in addition to the steps in my bestselling books, Self-Care for the Self-Aware and Empathipedia: Healing for Empaths & Highly Sensitive Persons

They'll teach you how to manage incoming energy and also heal what’s already been absorbed in a way that has been designed by an Empath/HSP for Empaths & HSPs. Use the above ideas in combination with the tools and exercises in the book and you’ll be much more likely to fall asleep quickly, stay asleep, and awake refreshed!

And if the above doesn’t prove as effective as you'd hoped, schedule a:

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